Diets Tips - Relief and Grief

  • Tue 16th Apr 2019 - 11:09am
    Allow yourself to feel this relief. It is like a warm, freshly laundered Leptin Shred blanket on a cold night. Let yourself be wrapped in the comfort. Let your body luxuriate in the softness, resting in the knowledge that you are not at fault. But as you rest in this place, something happens. The warm blanket soon loses its heat; its comfort is less absolute. The relief that the diet itself is to blame quickly turns to sadness, to grief. You have just experienced a significant loss in your life the belief that through dieting you could permanently change your body. With that loss is the letting go of the fantasy that if only you could get thin, you will be happier, more successful, more loved. You have invested time, money, and your very soul in this quest. The dieting process itself has been integral in organizing your life. The day is dictated by the food you will or will not eat. Your success or failure in following this plan determines your overall day, whether it is ultimately a "good" day or a "bad" day. The dreariness and chilliness of a late fall evening don't matter when you've followed your diet, when your jeans fit, when you're feeling thin. But then again, the pinkorange melting of an autumn sky at dusk, the rustle of the maple leaves, and the smell of the crisp fall air hold little pleasure if you are yelling at yourself for eating a box of cookies, for breaking your diet, for ruining your life. As a dieter, it is as if you have put on a pair of glasses that filter the world into allornothing thinking based upon calories, body, and weight. When you are wearing these glasses, your view is constricted, and what you can or cannot take in is based on where you are with your diet. Taking off the glasses is both scary and freeing. It is scary because if you have seen the world and your place in it as being determined by losing weight, you must now look at the broader scope of who you are and what you truly want in your life, regardless of your body size. At the same time, it is freeing because if you no longer define yourself in terms of good or bad based on dieting, weight, and body size, and no longer let this allornothing thinking determine what you can and cannot do in your life, you have the expansiveness of the world before you. We are here to tell you that that as a dieter, you are on an uneven playing field. Despite the fact that you are determined to lose weight, that you have worked hard to stay thinner, and that you have shown perseverance in your dieting attempts, not all bodies are created equally in size and shape. In this current climate of "thin is in," everyone is clamoring to reach this ideal, this American Dream represented by this body size. But we are all starting at different points on a continuum. Some people are naturally thin while others are naturally larger. Some people are short while others are tall.

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